Book review: ‘Modern Romance’ by Aziz Ansari


Did you read ‘Modern Romance’ by Aziz Ansari? If not, then you should. Here is my review of this amazing book.

My expectations about the book

When I picked up the book ‘Modern Romance’  by the famous stand-up comedian ‘Aziz Ansari’ I thought it would be a compilation of hilarious stories on romance. I watched Aziz’s Netflix comedy series ‘Master of None’ and I expected that this book will be similar to that series. (Comedy fiction).  I am glad that I am wrong.

What exactly the book was

This book is the result of a massive research that Aziz conducted along with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg. It’s a nonfiction book containing in-depth analysis of the relationships in the past generations and the present. As the author aptly states in this book, a few decades ago, finding a soul mate was about finding a ‘good enough’ person , but now ,in this generation, good enough person  is not ‘good enough’. Everyone is searching for a  perfect life partner.

The book covers a range of topics starting from ‘Searching a soul mate’, to ‘online dating ‘ to ‘sexting ,cheating’, to ‘settling down’. Aziz Ansari presented the results of his research, added  his humorous analysis about the findings and provided some suggestions at each stage of the relationship.

If you want to cheat yourself  by skipping all the chapters, then just read the conclusion chapter.It provides a recap of the previous chapters.  The fact that Aziz himself got into a long term relationship adds credibility to his suggestions.

Key suggestions mentioned in this book:

  1. Finding your life partner is complicated and stressful than it was for previous generations but you are more likely to end up  with a perfect person after all that process.
  2. Technology is playing a crucial role in relationships. Use it with caution.
  3. Don’t think of online dating as dating – think of it as online introduction service. After that, meet the person in real life rather than just chatting online.
  4. Treat potential partners like actual people, not like bubbles on a screen.
  5. With so many romantic options available, instead of trying to explore them all, make sure you properly invest in people and give them a fair chance before moving on to the next one.

My take on the book:

It is an interesting non-fiction humorous book. Every one of us can relate to at least one of the situations presented in this book. If you are  single, then you will have a lot of takeaway points from this book. If you are already in a happy relationship, then this book will reinforce how lucky you are to have a wonderful life partner.

Do read it. Add it to your good reads reading challenge 🙂 If the above review doesn’t entice you, then the fact that the book topped the ‘Nonfiction’ genre of ‘Goodreads Choice awards 2015’ should do 🙂

If you already read this book, what are your thoughts? Do let me know.

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Book Review: Crazy

Crazy: A Father’s Search Through America’s Mental Health Madness
by: Pete Earley

In my not so professional opinion, the title of this book speaks to me on a very deep level. I was a psychology major in college, so I was deeply engrossed in Pete Earley’s journey to figuring out how exactly the mental health system works in this country. His son was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, schizoaffective disorder, and schizophrenia. Through his journey of trying to cope with his son’s mental illnesses, he discovered the true horror of being mentally ill in America. It is a travesty of how the mentally ill are treated in America; they go between jail and the mental hospital. I can agree with Pete Earley when I say I don’t know what is crazier, the mentally ill or the system in which they are forced to exist where they are not properly treated and shown any respect.

This book is non-fiction, but some of the names may be changed to protect the identities of the mentally ill in this book. I believe everyone should read this book because we need to see how unjust and unfair the mental health system truly is and how difficult it is to truly tackle this situation. And I hardly believe throwing high doses of medication solves the problem because the mentally ill then begin to lose hope and humanity.

Personally, I was shocked at the horrors of how these people are treated and felt very enlightened after I read Earley’s testimony of how his son and many others with his condition suffer in this country. I urge everyone to read this book to realize what is going on this country in terms of how people are maltreated.

(I apologize if I made this very short, but I do not have the time or emotional energy to go into detail of how touching this book was to me and how many tears I shed when I was reading this book. I also heard this man speak at Mount Union College in 2010 about this very book, and he, too, was as short as I am when he was giving a small book review of his own book, if you will. Also, sorry if I am running a bit late. I have just been CRAZY busy with work and also feeling very unmotivated due to my lack of energy/mild depression. Thank you for your patience, and please ask me for more information if you need be, and tell me of your opinions. I have not written a book review in like… five years, so forgive me if I am rusty.)


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