I wrote something last night. Please give it a read and your feedback is highly appreciated.
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Happy reading! Have a good day 😊
Good morning, friends! We received shocking news about a family member’s health this week–about a woman who is a dynamic, loving mother and grandmother, and whose time, we are stunned to learn, may be very. very short. As her children hurry home to be with her for this Mother’s Day, I have to consider the holiday. The greeting card images are often far from reality. Hence my post today:
To all of you who have given a mother’s love, here’s my love and admiration!
I haven’t posted anything new since a while on the blog or anywhere. But, this is just a little piece that’s so close to my heart and which everyone here would relate to, so I thought of sharing it.
Everyone have there on phases, the break down phases. I was going through a lot of stuff too. I’ll write about that soon and for which I hope and I always know that on wordpress I can be exactly what I want. I don’t need to think twice before keeping my thoughts. So I know I wouldn’t be judged for “the type of girl I am” or “how good or bad I am”😊
Macro Moments Challenge: #37 has launched. Everyone who loves shooting macro, as I do, and those who enjoy photography as art, is invited to visit and participate! Here is the link for viewing the challenge with instructions for participating–
There is a charged, jolting silence that, if left too long extended, could easily become a bubbling tarpit that slurpily sucks up your friendship.
What,–oh, what,–should you do?
Of course, you’re going to have to read the piece.
We are all different, so I am in no way prescribing the ways in which I think everyone should respond. But I’ve evolved, over a lifetime of mishaps and mis-steps, some ways of responding to the writings of friends and family. I share them here, and I would love to hear your own response methods and techniques, too.
1. When someone asks, “Can you tell me if this is any good?” I have learned to hear, instead, in my mind’s ear, “Can you tell me what’s good about this piece?”
There IS something good about the writing. I read the work through that lens. I know, from a long career of grading compositions, that it’s so much easier to point out flaws than to uncover the strengths. Yet every paper has strength embedded.
I focus on the content, and I ask myself:
I have to remember, I’m a reader, not a teacher. I put my red pen away and read for enjoyment. I am freed from the responsibility to teach this person how to write: she knows that already. My reactions, though, can help her strengthen the good stuff. I focus on that.
2. If the writing brings up questions, I ask them. I ask them in a way that says, I got so interested in this, I just have to know the answers.
I might say, “So whatever happened to Aunt Tillie’s hairbrush? I’m dyin’ to know!” or “Did Danny ever get to go to college, then?” I try to ask the question in a way that says, “You’ve interested me and I really want to know more,” and NOT in a way that says, “Sorry, Bucko; your explanation is incomplete.”
3. I NEVER edit. The most I will do is say something mild like, “Thank goodness for spell and grammar check! Whatever did we do without them to polish up our final drafts!?”
My buddy isn’t asking for an editor. I put down the red pen and I step away from the grade book.
4. If the buddy asks me to read something really long–more than twenty pages, say,–I’m honest. I say, “Right now, I really can’t read that much, but I’d love to read a couple of pages to get the flavor of the piece.” And then I give those two pages my complete and undivided attention, and I respond in ways that show I really read and understand.
It’s an honor, really, to be asked to read someone’s work; they’re trusting me with something personal and precious. I need to handle it that way–and in the way I’d like someone to respond to my work. I need to look for the gold, and ask the questions that present themselves. It’s possible to be honest and supportive at the same time.
And what a treat to think that I may be the first to read something wonderful, something soon to be published and acclaimed–or just something cherished by the writer or their dear ones. In our wordy world, it’s nice to offer encouragement and validation–to show our friends that someone really does read and listen to what they have to say.
I know I haven’t checked into Blogger’s World for a very long time! (I’m guessing close to six months.) Amidst finishing post grad, landing my first job to losing it and other things in the last one year, I have neglected my books and blog. However, things have improved now and I really hope to come back to blogging and BW for a fresh start.
I see a lot of familiar names and new ones here. Look forward to participating and catching up on everything pretty soon. 🙂
I’m so glad to see how well Blogger’s World is doing! I have suffered from a data diet for too long! Since we still travel full time, we pay for our GB data on a monthly basis. From time to time, we have some extended time with reliable free wifi. With all that said, I hope to pop in more. I did want to comment on a post, a question by @cathylynnbrooks, but discovered I can’t comment anymore.
She wrote a book review, but said she deleted the photo and asked why aren’t photos allowed? I liked her book review, but I didn’t see the name of the book nor the author – probably were in the photo. I know at one time we didn’t post photos because some members (like me) have limited wifi and not enough data to download pictures. But yet, on the other book reviews, I saw the cover photos. I’m most interested as I have a book I would like to review!
Great job you are doing my Wandering Soul friend @piyushavir!
Blessings to all!